At South Yarra Counselling there is no right or wrong relationship, there is no allocation of blame when you come to counselling. Together we work to find what is important to both people and how closely the relationship meets those individual needs.
As Alain de Botton notes, critical thinking skills are rarely employed when selecting a romantic partner. However by remembering those qualities which initially attracted us to our partner can be helpful to reestablish lines of communication which may have become frayed in difficult times.
Understanding ourselves through our relationship with others also brings an abundance of self-development opportunities.
If you are willing to take the time, South Yarra Counselling provides the space to help you with critical self-reflection which can liberate you from the endless loop of repeating patterns in relationships.
Carl Jung maintained that relationships act as mirrors to our own unconscious archetypes. The object of our affection being a physical approximation of our internalised anima or animus. Jung saw the opportunity to work on this unconscious material is an important part of self-development or individuation.
Another theorist John Bowlby, considered that our first relationship in infancy forms the unconscious blueprint for all other relationships.
When we are in a relationship we aren't only working through our own attachment styles and unconscious material, but our partners as well.
Relationship counselling doesn't mean that the therapist gives advice or offers helpful suggestions, to either or both partners. Together we work towards the clarification of emotions and improving self-awareness and communication which helps to resolve any emotional impasse which may exist between you.
"I went to see Astrid during a very difficult time in my life. I am a person that always felt that I could deal with problems on my own but found everything was building up and getting too much for me. A friend suggested to go and see Astrid. Well......one of the best decisions I have made. Astrid was so easy to talk to and I felt very much at ease. Astrid helped me enormously and gave me insights and strategies which helped me deal with issues about my marriage break up and future relationships that I had been struggling with for a long time. It is so nice to know that Astrid is there anytime when I need an independent person to talk to rather than involving family or friends". Annie